Archive for the ‘Life Change’ Category
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photo credit: Nathan Dainty
In an effort to gain inspiration for the article you’re now reading, I asked my husband what he’d like to see me write about. Just a moment of silence and he said, “How do I improve my jumpshot?” That wasn’t exactly the inspiration I was looking for, but I did ask for his opinion, and in an effort to take his answer seriously, I took on the challenge. Just an FYI though, this article ISN’T about how to improve your jumpshot. (Or my husband’s. I found a great article on the web and forwarded it for his perusal.) It is, however, how my husband’s jumpshot is a lot like life. Â Or rather, the lessons life can teach us about creating change.
You see, just as my husband asked the question about his jumpshot, what shot through my brain and what came out of my mouth were two different things (a wise choice, I can assure you!). In my brain I thought, >> More..
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photo credit: haunted by Leonard Cohen
If you’ve never heard of the parenting book Love and Logic, the popular text gets into what it calls the “Three-Legged Table of Self-Concept.” I know, I know. One more simple analogy that’s supposed to cure everything wrong in your relationships. But this one makes sense.Â
Your table is only strong when all three legs are strong. Or put it this way: Your table is only as strong as its weakest leg. And if that leg is too weak, your whole table will collapse. What are these legs we speak of? They are the implied messages that we give to our children.
This analogy is especially helpful when we’re talking about adult children. If you were raised in an environment where these legs (again, our implied messages) were not strong and stable, then you probably >> More..
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I have found it - the definition of authenticity! Sure, there are plenty of Toms, Dicks, and Harrys out there who claim to know all about “authentic” life styles. They say, “Listen to me. I can guide you to happiness!” Then they charge you an arm and a leg. But I think I have found the real definition of authenticity. Here it is, for free I might add.  (You’re welcome!)
It comes by way of Brian Goldman, a graduate student at the University of Georgia in Athens. He was digging through centuries-old research and philosophy when he uncovered >> More..
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Now, before I begin, let me be crystal clear: This is neither a political statement nor a religious statement, and you won’t find my opinion on either in this post (although I do have one).
This bumper sticker caught my attention as a challenge. “I can’t?” Frustrated by the rules and beliefs we lay down for others, I was reminded of John Mayer’s song Belief. (You know the one… he says, “We’re never gonna beat this if belief is what we’re fighting for” - remember?) Issuing a blanket statement about something is merely a belief, and then putting a rule on top of that (like, “You CAN’T be catholic and pro-abortion”) is a recipe for disaster.
Assuming (as I do), that we live in world where disturbances of life are created by our mind, >> More..
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As I stated in my previous post (the first 5), I take no credit whatsoever for outlining the 10 Characteristics of Authentic People. Â Neil Clark Warren did a great job of that in his book, “Finding Contentment.” Â For me (and hopefully for you), this post is a reminder of where we find our authenticity and what it means to live according to our Core Self. Â
6. Â Authentic People are Adaptable and Flexible
People who have learned to be authentic are not annoyed and upset by every little change that comes along. Â They aren’t so rigid and unbending that the inevitable twists and turns of life rock their world.
Authentic people have what I call healthy adaptability - the kind that is free from resentment and feelings of abuse. Â They are so inwardly secure and sure of who they are that change for the benefit of a valued relationship will seem relatively easy. Â On the other hand, someone who is insecure and out of sync will tend to be defensive and angry when confronted by the need for change. Â Survival in life requires constant adaption, and those who master the skill are headed toward contentment. >> More..
